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Kinectin #1:  Intro

"What is Kinectin all about…and some proof that it works!"


Kinectin #2: A little secret about me

"I finally figured out why I look so serious or sometimes angry when I am talking…"


Kinectin #3: Making Time for Connection

"Dr. Matthew Lederman discusses the importance of making time for random moments of connection."


Kinectin #4: Can your life be wonderful?

"Kinectin’s unique “Hands of Joy” framework, helps you identify what will make your life more wonderful and then supports you in that pursuit. The Kinectin approach evaluates both the health of your internal world (from sleep to nutrition to play and self-care) and the depth of authentic connection in your external world (the key relationships in your life) to help you balance, improve, and optimize it all. When your internal world is more resourced you have a greater capacity to connect and contribute to your external world, leading to expansiveness and greater joy." 

Kinectin #5: Can your life be wonderful?

"The first step in figuring out how to make your life more wonderful."


Kinectin #6: Hands of Joy: Sleep - Overview

"Is sleep a luxury to get when you can fit it in or is it something that you need to ensure you get enough? How much do you need? What if you can’t fit in anymore? Watch this video and avoid overwhelm while also exploring getting more sleep for yourself."


Kinectin #7: Hands of Joy: Nutrition - Overview

"Why do you need to care about nutrition? How does optimizing your nutrition make your life more wonderful? From increasing your energy to reversing disease to looking more vibrant to just feeling better, everything starts to function more optimally."


Kinectin #8: Hands of Joy: Activity - Overview

"What do you do if you don’t like exercising? What do you do if you don’t have time to exercise? Learn how to meet your need for movement and activity without having to find a 25th hour in your day."


Kinectin #9: Hands of Joy: Play - Overview

"Play is overlooked by many people but is so important to your overall wellbeing. What is play? Content-free time, time where your need for creativity can be met. Learn not only why play can impact your life but also how you can start bringing this part of your internal world into better balance."


Kinectin #10: Hands of Joy: Soul - Overview

"There are 2 steps to connecting and optimizing this part of your internal world: Step 1 is to learn how to remove the blanket of fear weighing you down and preventing you from being able to do step 2, learning how to connect authentically to the feelings in your heart and values of your soul."


Kinectin #11: How to apply the ‘Hands of Joy’ to your own life and start making your life more wonderful.

"Watch as I show you how to apply the “Hands of Joy” to your own life. What clear, doable, positive requests can you make of yourself to optimize your internal world and your external world? Can you make these requests small and doable instead of overwhelming and unsustainable? Watch how simple it can be…"


Kinectin #12: Role-play: Watch how a 6 year-old girl is able to apply some of her Kinectin skills

"Watch my daughter use some of her actual Kinectin skills with me when I lose my tempter with her. Note she uses her stage name “Emma” for anonymity but sometimes I forget and call her by her real name “Jordan.”"


Kinectin #13: Role Play: Dad and a Six Year Old Girl working through iPad/brush teeth conflicts.

"Notice the difference in how you feel just watching when I approach my daughter using a conventional intention versus a Kinectin intention. Notice how even as a viewer you can feel the disconnection when I focus on trying to get her to do what I want versus when I try to understand her and establish a connection, attempting to find solutions that meet both her needs and my needs. She feels the difference, I felt the difference, and even people watching can feel the difference!"


Kinectin #14: Enlisting your children’s help to stay grounded

"Often your children can identify when you are starting to tighten up or get agitated well before you can realize it yourself so it is extremely helpful to you and empowering for them to help you “slow down” and come from an intention to connect instead of your old programming that often leads to disconnection."


Kinectin #15: Making a choice to be under-resourced is making a choice to be more angry and less connected.

"When you choose to do something that will lead you to be under-resourced (tired, hungry, stressed, etc) it is helpful to remind yourself that you are then also making a choice to be more likely to get angry or be reactive as well as a choice to be less connected to people you care about."


Kinectin #16: Getting the intention “right” is what matters

"If you can shift your intention to connect with people it doesn’t matter if you get the new connecting language “right.” People that learn to shift their intention first tend to get results much faster than those who are worried about getting the words “right” while overlooking the intention."


Kinectin #17: When both people in an argument are wanting to be heard and cared about first - Empathy Collisions

"There are many times when two people get into a disagreement where pain has been stimulated in both people at the same time. At that point both people want to be heard, they both want their pain cared about and tended to. Unfortunately that leads to a stalemate where no one gets tended to, unless you come up with a solution like this…"


Kinectin #18: How to connect when you hear criticism from someone else instead of defending of attacking them

"When you hear criticism and blame from someone it is extremely hard to connect to them. Learn how to translate the words coming out of their mouth and instead listen to the richness coming out of their heart. Once you do you will enjoy deeper connection and not only experience less pain yourself but also stimulate less pain in the other person, someone you very likely care deeply about."